Lady Gaga’s “Anything But Kind” – An Anthem for Outsiders
Lady Gaga burst onto the pop music scene in 2008 with her smash hit debut album The Fame, but few people know that she had been honing her songwriting skills for years prior. One of her earliest compositions was a song called “Anything But Kind,” written in 2005 when Gaga was just 19 years old. Though this song was never officially released, it holds a special meaning for Gaga and her fans as one of her most personal and vulnerable early works.
From the first lines, Gaga sets the tone for a song about being treated unkindly and feeling isolated: “Every day is a blank page, I open my eyes/Then try to paint a perfect picture, but I don’t feel right.” Immediately, the listener can sense her loneliness and desire to fit in and be “perfect.” But the next lines reveal that the people around her make this impossible: “The things you say, the way you play, I can’t live that way.” The honesty and vulnerability here are heartbreaking – Gaga is telling her story without filter.
The pre-chorus builds on this idea of being misunderstood and hurt by others. Gaga sings plaintively, “Somebody tell me why, I’m so alone/Nobody shows me love, even though I try so hard.” There is true despair in her voice when she asks why she has to suffer when she’s trying her best to be good enough. As a teen who felt rejected and unwanted, Gaga transfers those feelings powerfully through her music.
Then the chorus delivers the main message and title line: “When I see your face, it’s anything but kind/When you talk to me, it’s anything but kind.” The repetition drives home the cruelty and meanness Gaga faced from her peers growing up. She felt attacked just for being herself. The chorus captures that sense of injustice – of being bullied and ostracized for no good reason.
In the second verse, Gaga becomes even more vulnerable, confessing her insecurities: “Am I too skinny, am I too fat?/Tell me who I am supposed to be.” She reveals the unhealthy thoughts and self-doubt that harsh bullying can instill, making someone question their whole identity. Just the pleading tone of the lyrics is gut-wrenching.
But Gaga finds her inner strength again in the bridge, vowing that “When I find myself, I’ll leave you far behind/I’ll search within and find I’m worth so much more than this.” She realizes she doesn’t need the approval of people who treat her badly. Finding self-acceptance and self-love enables her to rise above the bullying. It’s an inspirational message to anyone struggling with these issues.
In the final chorus, Gaga replaces “kind” with “right” to sing “When I see your face, it’s anything but right.” This slight change makes the chorus more defiant, emphasizing that the way she was treated is fundamentally unjust. It’s a subtle shift that adds power to the song.
“Anything But Kind” has become a treasured rarity among Gaga’s fans, giving us an early glimpse of the unique songwriter she would become. The lyrics read like pages torn from her teen diaries. In interviews over the years, Gaga has opened up about the background of the song:
“I wrote it when I was 19 years old, and I was really struggling with my identity. But writing that song helped me to come to terms with who I am, and it gave me the confidence to pursue my dreams.” (Rolling Stone, 2011)
“That song was about being bullied and feeling like an outsider. It helped me get through some really rough times when I was younger.” (iHeartRadio, 2013)
Hearing Gaga speak so candidly about the meaning behind “Anything But Kind” gives me chills. It’s clear this song represents a breakthrough for her – a chance to turn hardship into art, and to find her voice.
Gaga has only performed “Anything But Kind” live on a handful of occasions, making each rendition uniquely special. Her raw vocals and emotional delivery are breathtaking. I remember watching fan-shot videos of her singing this at small clubs years ago, marveling at her connection to the lyrics. When she recently performed it at a few shows in 2017, the crowds erupted. For devoted fans, it was incredible to hear Gaga revisit this early gem.
Beyond Live Performances, “Anything But Kind” also had a brief moment in the spotlight in Gaga’s 2011 HBO special, Lady Gaga Presents the Monster Ball Tour: Madison Square Garden. In the opening vignette leading into “Bad Romance,” audio of Gaga singing the chorus plays over simulated old news clips about bullying. This creative use of the song generated more buzz and praise from fans.
Lady Gaga’s music from The Fame and beyond comes from a place of confidence, self-love, and pride. But “Anything But Kind” represents the vulnerable side of Gaga – the lonely girl who was trying desperately to fit in and find her place in the world. Though raw and emotional, the song also shows Gaga’s early songwriting talent. The specificity and honesty of the lyrics are most impressive for a 19-year-old. She took her real pain and turned it into meaningful art for others.
The song resonates deeply with me and so many other fans who have been bullied, excluded, or made to feel “less than.” It gives us strength and hope. I’m grateful that even this early, unreleased track has not been lost. “Anything But Kind” is a testament to Gaga’s connection with fans – and to the healing power of pop music. When Gaga sings “When I find myself, I’ll leave you far behind,” she speaks not just for herself, but for every person searching for acceptance and battling insecurity.
Nearly two decades after Gaga wrote this song, it remains just as powerful and poignant. For all of these reasons, “Anything But Kind” is an anthem for outsiders, and a moving window into Lady Gaga’s past. Though never commercially released, it holds a special place in her narrative and fan legacy. Whenever she performs this raw, emotional ballad live, it’s clear just how much the song means to Gaga. We are blessed to get a glimpse into the personal journey of an icon through lyrics she penned in her youth. “Anything But Kind” makes me proud to be a fan; Gaga turns the pain of the past into music that heals.